What can I do to have my wife want to have with me?

My wife and I have been married for just over two years and I can count the amount of times that we have "attempted" to have on one hand. We waited to have until we were married, and before that, we couldn't keep our hands off each other. Before we got married, we talked about having and she was a bit afraid to do it and when the day finally came, she was in a lot of pain. I didn't want to hurt her, so I just wanted to give it time. Since then, her desire has gone out the window and any time we try to, which is almost never, it hurts her too much to do it for any period of time at all. To make things worse, we don't do anything intimate at tall. Not even a french kiss. To get her to do anything is like pulling teeth. I have tried to be super understanding and I have tried to swoon her and romance the crap out of her, but no dice. It has come to the point that I hardly try any more, the most I go for is a kiss. I know she loves me and she feels horrible about how our life has progressed (or not progressed). We talk about it often and she just doesn't want to and she doesn't want to fake it and I understand that she also doesn't want to be in pain. She is embarred and doesn't want to talk about the pain with her doctor. I feel like I am stuck in a corner with no hope for a healthy life. Any help or insight that you all could give me would be wonderful. Thanks!